The truth about 3

If you had asked me before I got married how many children I wanted, I would have told you without hesitation, 2. That answer was probably based more on societal norms than anything else, and to be honest, was still my thinking when we had Grace, 7 years into marriage.

Another 7 years later and we have 3 kids, so what changed? I don’t really know especially since the first year of Grace was particularly hard on me being a first time mom with a super sensitive baby, it sent my anxiety sky rocketing.  I remember getting through the first 2 years with Grace and saying to Duncan ‘I have to have another one so that I can try and enjoy the baby phase and get it right’. 

And that was Eli to me,  I just loved every minute with him. All those warm fuzzy feelings I thought I would/should feel first time round flooded me the second time. I felt confident as a mom and found the transition from one to two a breeze. Maybe that is where the idea of 3 really started to permeate in my mind. I started watching families with 3 kids and it started to feel right for us, more family more love.  And so it came to be that we became a family of five. 

The journey to 3 kids,  although easy in conception,  proved difficult emotionally for me,  family and friends questioned why we would want a 3rd, the words ‘you are brave’ were repeated so many times I started hearing ‘you are crazy for having a 3rd’. I seriously began to doubt whether our decision to have a 3rd was a good idea (bit late in the game, I know). I guess going against those preconceived norms makes people say silly things sometimes.  The irony is that now that we have crossed over the 2 kid barrier, people want to know if we are planning another one. The answer to that is a resounding no. 

So has having 3 kids lived up to my expectations? To be honest both yes and no. Is my life all sorts of crazy that makes me agree with all the people that said I was brave / crazy / stupid to have a third, definitely.  Does this very introverted mom long for moments of silence and a bit of space? For sure.  

Having said that does our family feel complete, and filled with love,  without a doubt.  Would I change anything, not a chance, 3 just feels right.

Addy jumps

Adam is jumping! 18 months today and he is gaining some decent jumping technique 

With the beautiful weather, walks in the park and time to connect with nature are a must 

Family sports day

It was time for the Newberry family sports day, so off we went to start with an early morning trail run through the vineyards. This was Grace’s longest run that I know of and I think it really took quite a bit out of Grace to get through it, but she did. I joined her with Adam on my back, but the pace was easy. 

The grit, the determination 

The preschool race

It’s a beautiful day for an egg and spoon race

The never ending relay race

18 months of Adam 

Adam will be 18 months on Saturday,  I can’t believe it, where oh where has the last year and a half gone?
Oh wait, I know it’s been lost to sleep deprivation!! One day in my distant future I hope to recover my ability to find words and complete my train of thought in a non tired haze. Until then thank you dear husband for understanding me even when I’ve said the completely incorrect word. Duncan usually just smiles a little smile and says ‘did you mean…’ 

So let’s take a look at this little man (or not so little man) who has captured all of our hearts with his adventurous spirit and his love for all things physical; climbing, jumping, throwing all things, walking on high narrow walls and playing with his siblings. He weighs 15.3kgs, is 86cm and is wearing 2-3 year clothes and a size 6 – 7 shoe. Interestingly he is 3/4cm taller than his siblings at the same age! 

Adam,  as you start communicating more and develop more into a little person I’m excited to discover what makes you you. 

Last day of holidays

Last week Cape Town showed us a taste of winter and although I love winter, the rain and the snuggling that goes with it, I don’t feel quite ready for it.  This week however seems to have brought back a bit of summer which the kids and I are enjoying. 

To celebrate the last day of the school holidays the kids had some fun with friends that included a game of Monopoly, snacks, jumping on the trampoline, making a sneaky (okay not so sneaky) trap for me which included string and stones and of course all good play dates should have at least 2 dance / singing shows. 

A very early game of Monopoly 

Snacks to keep up their strength

A good singing and dancing show 

Good Friday and the crumpets

Reading Jesus’ story together

Adam thinks that Andrew’s cot makes a great play place

Yummy breakfast crumpets 

Hurricane cookie and the lawnmower

It took a very long time to deliberate, but finally the girls agreed on making some cowgirl cookies. When I came down it looked like Hurricane Cookie had been through the kitchen. 

Eli still has his love of gardening with Sam 

In the middle 

Grace and Eli were watching a movie and feeling quite comfortable sitting next to each other on the couch. Adam thought the tiny space between them looked like the best spot, so he clambered over Grace and wiggled his way into the middle, just where he wanted to be. 


It’s holidays…yay!

Marius & Jean

We got to spend the weekend enjoying Marius & Jean’s wedding – braais, breakfasts, wedding, and hanging out together.

Marius & Jean shared some beautiful, heartfelt and deeply personal vows


The chapel


Eli sat and watched the musicians for a long time before the wedding


Addy enjoyed participating in boules (party to turn on the sprinkler and wet everyone playing, and partly to carry the balls around and pack them away)


The children await the ceremony


While the last few things are being checked


Here comes the bride….




Husband & wife!


Receiving speeches & personal anecdotes


It was a lovely wedding to attend and one that seemed just right for Marius. Jean & Marius, may you have a blessed marriage and share many, many years together.