A friend of mine told me about a conversation she had with her 10 year old son, she told him: "there will be things that you'll see me do, things you will experience in our home that you think are wonderful and there will be things that you don't agree with. When you have your own family one day hold onto those things you cherish and leave the rest." I think it is such an incredible gift to be able to give your child that freedom to decide what he / she wants for their lives, to let them know its okay if they don't agree with everything that happens in their home, and at the same time to acknowledge that we as parents sometimes get it wrong (and right). I hope to be able to give that gift to Grace.