We have a policy that things – such as toys and such like – are our family’s so that we can minimise conflict over whose toy it is. There are certain things though which are personal items, such as Grace’s monkey – which is most definitely her monkey.

Grace wanted to eat some of Eli’s snack and Donné said to her, “Grace, please leave those, they are Eli’s.” Grace looks at them longingly and says, “It’s our family’s!” and waves her arms to a big all encompassing circle. She convinced us.